My newest book is about healing after a breakup.
At first, it’s about getting through the pain — learning how to feel better, to breathe again, to find your footing.
But as the healing deepens, something unexpected happens: you begin to wake up. You reconnect with your purpose. You start to feel rooted in something meaningful — a sense that you are here for a reason, supported by forces far greater than yourself.
What grows from this is an unbreakable relationship with yourself — your inner child and your higher self — a foundation no one can take from you.
When I’m living this way, present and aligned with my purpose, I can’t wait to get up in the morning. I feel energized, hopeful, and alive. My relationships shift too — they become about alignment, growth, and shared purpose, not need or survival.
This is about becoming who we are meant to be — and using that to make this world more alive, more connected, and more whole.
Read or listen to a chapter for free here: Chapter 1, Chapter 2, also you can pre-order the text and video version of the book here.
Unlearning to Remember – Finding Truth in a World That Forgot
You did what you were taught.
Work hard. Stay strong. Be successful.
Push through. Don’t slow down. Don’t feel too much.
And yet… something still feels off.
Maybe a relationship ended and cracked you open.
Maybe anxiety or burnout crept in quietly.
Maybe you’ve achieved what you were supposed to achieve — but it didn’t bring the peace you thought it would.
If you’ve ever felt disconnected from yourself, from your partner, or from the natural world… this book is for you.
Unlearning to Remember is an invitation to gently question the conditioning we’ve absorbed about success, strength, love, and identity — and to remember the deeper truth already alive inside us.
Through personal stories of marriage, fatherhood, surfing, meditation, community, loss, and renewal, Clay Schmitz explores what happens when we stop fighting life and begin listening instead.
Inside you’ll discover how to:
- Move from fear and anxiety into grounded presence
• Turn conflict into connection
• Ask for what you need without blame or defensiveness
• Build intimate partnership rooted in trust and vulnerability
• Reclaim your body, intuition, and inner steadiness
This is not about escaping modern life.
It’s about inhabiting it more consciously.
It’s about becoming the kind of partner, parent, friend, and human being who brings calm instead of chaos — who chooses love over fear.
The world may have forgotten what truly matters.
But you can remember.
Available now on Amazon.com as a Paperback and on Kindle:
Unlearning to Remember: Finding Truth in a World That Forgot